Parents' code of behaviour factsheet #2

In the area of vocational dance where the student is often a high achiever, perceived pressure to please parenting figures can add to the stress (both positive and negative) of daily living and growing.

The following suggestion for a code of behaviour for parents is intended to support them in their efforts to reassure their child that dance is for his/her own enjoyment and that they are loved for themselves rather than for their achievements.

• If children are interested, encourage them to dance. If children are not willing to dance, do not force them.
• Encourage dance students to see live professional performances as often as possible.
• Eliminate focus emphasis on winning. Focus instead on the child's efforts and performance rather than the overall outcome of the examination, performance or audition.
• Help children to set realistic goals based on their individual ability and experience.
• Teach children that an honest effort is as important as a victory, so that the results of each examination or performance are accepted without undue disappointment.
• Encourage children to follow the rules and be a cooperative team member..
• Never ridicule or yell at a child for making a mistake or not passing an examination.
• Remember, children are dancing for their enjoyment, not yours.
• Remember that children learn best by example so practice what you preach. Applaud good performances by all of the performers.
• If you disagree with an examiner, adjudicator or critic, raise the issue through the appropriate channels rather than question the official's judgment in public.
• Support all efforts to remove verbal and physical abuse from dance activities.

Adapted from National Aussie Sport Program coaching manual—Australian Sports Commission, Bruce, ACT